Introduction
Navigating the changes in your sex life during the perimenopause stage? This time can be a difficult time for many women, but you are not alone. During this stage full of hormonal shifts, psychological and physical, you can experience hot flashes, mood swings, vaginal dryness, and more. Many of the changes during perimenopause can decrease or increase (less common) your sex drive, and that is normal. But this does not have to be your new normal; there are tools that you can use to explore your sexuality again, and by tools, we mean sex toys. Yes, that’s right, sex toys can be your best friend in any stage of your life, but even more now when you need flexibility and comfort. No matter the case, sex toys can provide the satisfaction you need at your own pace. Read below to understand more about perimenopause and the different ways that sex toys can support you during this phase of life.
What Is Perimenopause?
Perimenopause, or menopause transition, is a natural phase when your ovaries gradually begin to make less estrogen. It can start in your 40s, but sometimes earlier, and you can expect this period to last around 4 years. It is common to experience a range of symptoms during perimenopause, which may include:
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Hot flashes and night sweats, or vasomotor symptoms (VMS)
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Breast tenderness
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Worse premenstrual symptoms
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Lower sex drive
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Fatigue
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Irregular periods (also called perimenopause periods)
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Vaginal dryness or discomfort during sex
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Leaking pee when you cough or sneeze
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Having an urgent need to pee more frequently
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Mood swings
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Trouble sleeping
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Short-term memory problems
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Trouble concentrating
You will know this stage is over once you miss your period for 12 consecutive cycles. After this, you would officially be in menopause. (Refer to the WebMD guide for more details: https://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide-perimenopause)
While this stage can be uncomfortable and come with challenges, we’ll provide some ideas to help you find your rhythm again in your sex life.
How to use sex toys during perimenopause?
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Ease into action with your partner
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It is important to create the right conditions for you and your partner during intimacy, especially while going through perimenopause. Try carving out enough time for foreplay to comfortably ease into sex. Foreplay helps couples get comfortable while building up excitement. Adding a sex toy during foreplay can be exciting for both of you and can be helpful to create enough stimulation for an enjoyable sexual experience.
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Stimulate at your own pace
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Finding your libido back on your own will require some experimenting. Perhaps what used to work before no longer does, and now you need to get a little creative. If you have not tried sex toys before, this is a good moment to give them a try, and if you have, you can consider adding some new ones to your collection to spice things up.
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Satisfy your needs
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If this stage has you feeling hotter than ever (not only literally), then you may want to resort to sex toys as you experience a more frequent need for satisfaction. If you are feeling frisky, consider small and discreet sex toys that are easy to carry with you, for whenever the mood strikes.
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Disclaimer: We recommend using lube with each sex toy, especially if you are experiencing vaginal dryness.
How to Choose?
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Material Safety: Your Body Deserves the Best
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During perimenopause, your body communicates in new ways. You may notice that your skin becomes more sensitive, you're more prone to irritation, and your natural pH balance is more easily disrupted. This heightened state of sensitivity is precisely why the material of your sex toy is not just a detail, it's the most important factor for your comfort and health.
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Size & Design: Thoughtful Design & Ease of Use
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Let's get this straight: the traditional sex toy market often forgets about us. Browse a typical sex toy brand, and you’re met with a sea of garish pinks and purples, toys that feel really cheap in your hand, and designs that are either strange or just... uninspired. They’re built for a single, transactional purpose, with no consideration or soul for the woman holding them: her life, experiences, struggles, or aesthetic. For the mid-life woman, this feels extremely disconnected. You’ve evolved. Your taste, your understanding of your own body, it’s all more refined or let's say upgraded. Your tools for pleasure and wellness should be as well.
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Ease of Use: The last thing you need when you're trying to relax and get in the mood is to figure with a complicated remote control of a toy! Literally. And you sometimes may not even need a manual to figure out how to turn it on or off. The best designs often comes with a single, easy-to-find button to reach pure pleasure. One press to turn it on, one press to cycle through a few settings, and a long press to turn it off.
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Budget Range: Pleasure is Top Priority
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When you find a toy that can make you giggle with delight and gasp with pleasure at the same time, guessing the price tag often be the last thing on your mind. Right? Because that experience, that reconnection with your own joy and sensation is truly priceless, especially during a time like perimenopause when your body can feel unfamiliar.
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Top Picks from The Joybloom
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Aura: Feel the Heat. The Suction. The Spark.
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Hightlight: The Heating Mode is like a warm, comforting hug for your most sensitive areas. It eases tension, soothes everyday aches, and increases blood flow, directly addressing vaginal dryness and discomfort by naturally enhancing your body's responsiveness. Also, the Sensation Combination of suction and vibration works in harmony to re-educate nerve endings, heighten sensitivity, and guide you back to powerful, reliable climaxes.
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Luna Bloom: A dual-action solution for external arousal and internal comfort, all in one sleek, detachable design.
- Hightlight: Two-in-One detachable toy design - Do not need to choose, you have both. Experience the revolutionary combination of G-spot vibration and detachable clitoral suction. Designed to produce powerful, full-body blended orgasms that are deeper and more intense.
- Explore here: Luna Bloom - a symbol of purity and graceful emergence.
Key Takeaways
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Perimenopause can cause hormonal changes leading to vaginal dryness, tender nipples, hot flashes, mood swings and more (Refer to the WebMD guide for more details: https://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide-perimenopause)
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Due to these changes, it can affect women’s sexual lives in different ways (painful sex, higher or lower libido)
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Sex toys can be a tool to ease back or bring excitement into your sex life